April 24, 2016, Sarah Knapton Marriage has long been thought to be beneficial – both in sickness and in health. But a study suggests that widows actually suffer less stress and frailty than wives whose husbands are still alive. The findings are in contrast to previous research which showed marriage has a protective effect on
Read moreAlain de Botton The Age. July 8, 2016 It’s one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We know the horrors well enough and often devote inordinate efforts trying to skirt them. Yet, however hard we may try, it’s an error we’re highly likely to make all the same: we too
Read moreThis information sheet (from the Australian Psychological Society) provides advice for parents around how to make separation less stressful for all concerned, especially children. In general, the things that help children’s wellbeing following separation are the same things that work in any family: good quality parenting, supportive relationships with parents, low conflict between the child’s
Read moreRN by Victoria Pengilley for Life Matters, 26 Jun 2018. Cancer is a diagnosis no-one wants to hear. What follows is fear, uncertainty and the upheaval of life as you know it. More than 120,000 Australians are diagnosed with cancer each year, and the number is set to rise. Cancer Council Australia predicts one in
Read moreJohn scratches his head. “Why do all my relationships end in the same way? Why do I always end up unhappy, angry and fighting? Do I keep attracting the wrong sort of partner? Is it my karma? It doesn’t matter how much I give, it’s never enough. They always want more and more. Why do
Read moreAn Interview with Gary Chapman Ryan Howes • 5/22/2018 • In our romantic fantasies, the path to true love is smooth, and partners know exactly how to make each other feel loved. But the couples we see in therapy aren’t always so adept. In fact, Gary Chapman, a North Carolina pastor and counselor, realized that
Read moreThe Conversation, by Philip Lovell Pearce and Li Jing, 12 Jul 2018. John Briggs, a 40-year-old on holiday, texted his wife Shirley: “Look at the glacier out there.” He waited for the reply, which came through on his mobile. At the time they were sitting next to one another on board the deck of their
Read moreBy Deanna Pai Early on in our relationship, my boyfriend admitted that he occasionally checks out other women. He’s in grad school, which means that he’s surrounded by approximately 10 billion cute undergrads at any given moment — so it seems almost inevitable. Almost. “I know it’s not okay, and I’m working on controlling the
Read moreNew York Times, Sunday Review By SHERRY TURKLE, September 26, 2015 COLLEGE students tell me they know how to look someone in the eye and type on their phones at the same time, their split attention undetected. They say it’s a skill they mastered in middle school when they wanted to text in class without getting
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